Archive for April, 2010

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Are You Ready to Tie the Knot?

Sunday, April 25th, 2010

Hindu wedding ceremony, Kalyn Johnson, Wedding STYLE by Kalyn Johnson

I hope so if you’re getting ready to say I DO!  But, before you do, it might be nice to know exactly what is meant by “tying the knot”.  Marriage is an institution with a rich history in many countries and cultures.  Although different cultures may have different wedding traditions, there are similarities between many of these traditions.  So where does the phrase “tie the knot” come from?  Depends on who you ask.

  • Some say, it comes from the betrothal knot.  Before things got fancy and diamond rings became the rage, one’s engagement status was symbolized by people wearing knotted cords, a betrothal knot, tied around different body parts.
  • In Persia and Iran, brides and grooms joined hands through a curtain separating them and a piece of cloth would be wrapped around them and tied with a symbolic knot.  Then, a twist of yarn is wrapped around the couple seven times, then around the knot seven times.
  • The Celtic Handfasted Ceremony was performed without the clergy kind of as trial to marriage.  Two people who were “handfasted” if they agreed to live as husband and wife for a year and a day, after which they could agree to separate, or else formalize their marriage in the presence of a priest.  The couple  would join hands and then tie their wrists and hands together with a long ribbon or strip of cloth, symbolizing the union.  In some versions of this story, the wrists are cut so as to mingle the blood of bride and groom before tying the knot.  Others say the bride and groom would each tear a strip off of their tartan and tie them together, thus symbolizing the union of the two clans.
  • It’s said that in ancient Rome, the bride wore an intricately knotted belt.  The groom got to “untie the knots” on the wedding night.
  • Back in the day, Japanese priests would bind the bride and grooms hands with rope during the ceremony. In modern day, you will often see the priest place a sash around their hands rather than rope, and it is from this that the saying comes.
  • Some say that the phrase comes from the old marriage custom of actually tying the couple’s hands together as part of the ceremony. They couple was not allowed to untie the knot until they had consummated the marriage.
  • It’s said illiterate Swedish sailors and soldiers would send a piece of rope to their sweethearts as a proposal.  If the rope came back with a knot in it, the knot meant she’d accepted his hand in marriage.
  • In Hindu wedding ceremonies, during the Gathabandhan portion of the ceremony the priest ties a knot using the ends of the clothing worn by the bride and groom. The priest ties the end of the groom’s dhoti or kurta, whichever he is wearing, with that of the bride’s sari; the knot signifies the sacred wedlock.
  • And, the Mexican Lasso or Lazzo Ceremony, where a cord (often of flowers) is draped around the shoulders of the bridal couple during to ceremony to signify that they are bound and being joined together by God.

Whatever the origin of the phrase, it’s the sentiment that really speaks volumes. Tying the knot is more than just a phrase, it’s become short-hand for the uniting of two souls which is a pretty powerful statement.


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Rain on Your Wedding Day

Sunday, April 18th, 2010

Rain on Your Wedding Day, Kalyn Johnson, Wedding STYLE by Kalyn Johnson

Rain, rain go away . . .

The old nursery school rhyme is one many brides cry when it comes to their wedding days, but, believe it or not, rain on your wedding day is actually good luck.  Some say that this belief dates back to Hindu culture where a part of the wedding ceremony is the traditional tying of the knot; Hindus believe that a wet knot is harder to untie.

Many cultures subscribe to the belief that rain on your wedding day is good luck. Why?  Rain was viewed a symbol of fertility in agricultural societies because it restored and maintained the wellness of crops. And in these societies, crops were the main source of stability and income so, it was thought than rain on your wedding day was a guarantee of a long and happy marriage.

So, what’s a Bride to do?  Have a Plan B.  Most resorts and hotels will insist that you have a Plan B if you are planning an outdoor wedding ceremony, just in case it rains or looks like rain.  Here’s the thing to remember if rain is predicted on your wedding day – the hotel or venue is going to ask you to make the call (Plan A or Plan B) a few hours before your ceremony.  If it’s raining cats and dogs, the call  is easy.  If it just looks like rain, you’ve got a more difficult decision to make.  Either way, you’ll be fine and your wedding ceremony will be wonderful.  You’re marrying the man of your dreams, rain or shine!

As the French say, Mariage Pluviex, Mariage Heurex, which when translated means ”A happy marriage is the result of a wet wedding.”  And the Italians believe that a wet bride is a happy bride, Sposa bagnata, sposa fortunata!

Here’s to rain on your wedding day!

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Wedding Day Special Touches | Escort Cards

Sunday, April 11th, 2010

monogrammed roses, kalyn johnson, wedding style by kalyn johnson

Some friends of mine are getting married this Fall and their wedding website is to die for!  They had it professionally done and it’s really really nice.  The Bride is an aesthete and she’s left no stone unturned up to this point.  She’s also a foodie and the pictures of the food (yes, food) on her wedding website are mouthwatering. The Bride and Groom have  invited their guests to join them in Honolulu, the Bride’s hometown, for a Tropical Affair that will be replete with all sorts of local delicacies.  I’m so happy for them and very excited to go to Hawaii to celebrate their nuptials.  What makes each wedding unique really is the fact that it’s a reflection of the two individuals tying the knot.  Some couples are more laid-back, while others are much more traditional.  Flowers may be important to one while food and wine to another.  Seeing how each couple expresses their uniqueness is part of what makes weddings so much fun.  It’s an honor to be a wedding guest and get a glimpse into the Bridal couple’s intimate world of family and friends, and oh yeah the special touches they employ to make their day theirs and theirs alone.

I came across these escort cards the other day and marveled at how cool they are.  I am a sucker for a monogram and these roses monogrammed with the Bridal couple’s initials are really pretty unique.  Just a little something to contemplate as you plan for your BIG DAY!

Oh, and in case you’re mired in wedding details and are having trouble seeing the forest for the trees (I know I was as things got down to the wire!), Escort Cards are the cards used to inform your guests of their assigned table whereas Place Cards are used to let your guest know of their assigned seat at a table.  Do many couples have one card that acts as both?  Yes.  Do whatever works best for you.

If you’re incorporating a special touch into your BIG DAY that you’d like to share or if you went to a wedding and saw a really cool special touch that we must know about, please e-mail kalyn@kalynjohnson.com with Wedding Day Special Touch in the subject line.

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Shall We Dance? | Bridal Couple’s 1st Dance

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

dancing feet, Kalyn Johnson, Wedding STYLE by Kalyn Johnson

A few weeks ago, I was invited by Craig Sumsky of Cutting Edge DJ’s to be a Guest Blogger – Thanks Craig!  He told me I could write about anything that I wanted to.  It took me a minute to come up with something, but then Eureka!  He’s a DJ, he plays a vital role in one of the most important components of the wedding after the ceremony – the PARTY! (a.k.a. The Reception) – and I’m a stylist who helps clients infuse their personal style into their weddings.  What better way to get the party rockin’ than to enter it with a bit of flare?  That bit of flare being The FIRST Dance.  So, if you’re looking to spice things up a bit and do something a little bit different from the norm with a non-traditional FIRST Dance, contemplate no more.  Check out my article and let me know what you think.  Better yet, let me know which song you and your beloved intend to cut the rug to!

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WeddingSTYLE Lab | Destination Wedding

Sunday, April 4th, 2010

Kalyn Johnson, Style by Kalyn Johnson, Possess Your StyleYou’ve been invited to what promises to be a FABulous wedding in the Caribbean, great.  You got your plane ticket and secured your hotel room.  Perfect.  So, what are you going to wear?!?!?! You need outfits for six events – the welcome cocktail party, a pool party, the rehearsal dinner, a beach party, the wedding and brunch the day after the wedding. I’ve received a number of questions from readers from about this very issue, hence the birth of WeddingSTYLE Lab.  WeddingSTYLE Lab will be a regular feature of Wedding STYLE by Kalyn Johnson to help readers find FAB outfits to wear to the FAB weddings they’re planning or have been invited to attend.

I love Tibi and swooned when I saw the dress pictured above. Tibi One Shoulder Dress – $454.  To take it to the next level, I’d add some sparkly earrings by  Lee Angel Crystal Stone Earrings – $139.99 and bracelets Studded Bangle Set – $130.  This Hot Pink Rebecca Minkoff Clutch with Chain Strap, $325 is to die for and will definitely be a great accent piece for Spring/Summer.  Neutrals are in and these great heels by L.A.M.B. will work well with just about anything in your closet. L.A.M.B. Women’s Dominica Open Toe Pump – $275.  And top it off with a colorful pashmina just in case it gets chilly. Pashmina Cashmere Scarf – $29.99. Depending on the bride and groom and the venue they’ve chosen, this outfit could be perfect for a cocktail party, a rehearsal dinner or even the actual wedding.

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